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Hi , I am new to this group, but not new to chronic pain. I have suffered with back pain at all levels for six years.It started as lumbar pain and I gradually added thoracic and cervical.I have been to Drs. who have told me it’s all in my head and it’s repressed anger,poor posture etc. A Neurologist confirmed neurological findings finally. After a two year battle I was awarded SSI due to my severe back problems, but yet no Dr has come up with an answer.I am going to a Neuro surgeon this week with a complete set of new MRI films and see what he has to say. I am so grateful to have come across this group.I have found that if people can’t "see" it, they don’t beleive being here….Cathy
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Hi Cathy."boy" Have I been there !! I have had severe pain for 41 years,and it took the first 31 to find a diagnoses. I have "Arachnoiditis"and the problem is, it is contained entirely inside the spine,where the fluid and spinal care is located.Mine was caused by the dye used in a myleogram in 1961,and the only way to diagnose it is with another myleogram or a MRI.There are no blood test of any kind that will show it. Also the tech must know how to set the MRI machine,or it wont show then. Another thing is it can affect your entire body,so your pain can move around over the whole body,sometimes depending on what kind of activity you engage in. Another thing is lately they believe the Epidurals done during childbirth are causing arachnoiditis to show up years later.That may be something for you to check out.The internet is full of information on "A" just do a search. I hope this helps Good Luck Lem – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Hi , I am new to this group, but not new to chronic pain. I have suffered with back pain at all levels for six years.It started as lumbar pain and I gradually added thoracic and cervical.I have been to Drs. who have told me it’s all in my head and it’s repressed anger,poor posture etc. A Neurologist confirmed neurological findings finally. After a two year battle I was awarded SSI due to my severe back problems, but yet no Dr has come up with an answer.I am going to a Neuro surgeon this week with a complete set of new MRI films and see what he has to say. I am so grateful to have come across this group.I have found that if people can’t "see" it, they don’t beleive being here….Cathy
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Hi , I am new to this group, but not new to chronic pain. I have suffered with back pain at all levels for six years.It started as lumbar pain and I gradually added thoracic and cervical.I have been to Drs. who have told me it’s all in my head and it’s repressed anger,poor posture etc. A Neurologist confirmed neurological findings finally. After a two year battle I was awarded SSI due to my severe back problems, but yet no Dr has come up with an answer.I am going to a Neuro surgeon this week with a complete set of new MRI films and see what he has to say. I am so grateful to have come across this group.I have found that if people can’t "see" it, they don’t beleive being here….Cathy
Hi Cathy. Glad you are here but sorry you have to be, if you know what I mean. Hang in there! -SandyG
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hi everybody, I subscribed for the first time yesterday and noticed that someone had written Durogesic does kill. unfortunately this had been deleted and I wonder if anyone has information on this as I have been on the patches for several weeks now and would be interested to know more. I have a fantastic pain consultant here in Pontefract, England. Hope to tell more if anyone is interested. kind regards john
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John, if you put heat to the patch it will release all the medicine at one time.like a heating pad,so be careful. Lem
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john– There are a lot of things that can kill if used improperly or without the Supervison of a Doctor, inclusing Aspirin and Tylenol. I have heard that Duragesic pathces have been very successful for certain types of pain but that they don’t work for everyone and can be hard to get to stck for the full three days. If you are receiving adequate pain relief and are under the care of a Docotr and not experiencing and bad side effects, I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Good luck Where in England do you live?–I went to college there for a semester and lived in the South Kensington area of London–just South of Hyde Park. England in a lovely Country and London is a fantastic city–I can’t wait to return. Jefe
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – hi everybody, I subscribed for the first time yesterday and noticed that someone had written Durogesic does kill. unfortunately this had been deleted and I wonder if anyone has information on this as I have been on the patches for several weeks now and would be interested to know more. I have a fantastic pain consultant here in Pontefract, England. Hope to tell more if anyone is interested. kind regards john
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Hi John, Afraid I can’t help with this problem, just wanted to say welcome to the group. I also live in England – on the south coast in Dorset. Take care and let us know more about yourself. Em – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – hi everybody, I subscribed for the first time yesterday and noticed that someone had written Durogesic does kill. unfortunately this had been deleted and I wonder if anyone has information on this as I have been on the patches for several weeks now and would be interested to know more. I have a fantastic pain consultant here in Pontefract, England. Hope to tell more if anyone is interested. kind regards john
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Hi John, I think I know the message you mean, it was sent by a woman whose son had been given Duragesic patches for post-op pain contrary to the manufacturer’s directions. The young man came home and went to sleep on his heated waterbed, causing the patch to release the med much more rapidly and he died. Also, she mentioned a death from someone tearing open the patch and ingesting the fentanyl gel inside–also deadly. Evidently the woman thought that people on this ng were illegally using prescription meds, confusing we chronic pain-ers with drug abusers who would do anything for a high. So, don’t eat your patch or sleep in a hot tub or waterbed with the patch between you and the heated mattress and you should be fine. In other words, read the directions. Summer (have used Duragesic for 3 1/2 years w/o incident) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – hi everybody, I subscribed for the first time yesterday and noticed that someone had written Durogesic does kill. unfortunately this had been deleted and I wonder if anyone has information on this as I have been on the patches for several weeks now and would be interested to know more. I have a fantastic pain consultant here in Pontefract, England. Hope to tell more if anyone is interested. kind regards john
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Excellent advice Summer. One more caution. With the temps rising during the summer, be careful about spending long periods in the heat. Your pores open more and blood flow to the skin and subcutaneous tissues is dramatically increased as a cooling method for your body. This will also increase the rate of absorption of the fentanyl. — Jack Stem Midwest Anesthesia Consultants Conscious Sedation, Pain Management, PICC Lines, Chart Review http://www.bergsmyriad.com/macindex.htm "One person CAN make a difference. Be that person"
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi John, I think I know the message you mean, it was sent by a woman whose son had been given Duragesic patches for post-op pain contrary to the manufacturer’s directions. The young man came home and went to sleep on his heated waterbed, causing the patch to release the med much more rapidly and he died. Also, she mentioned a death from someone tearing open the patch and ingesting the fentanyl gel inside–also deadly. Evidently the woman thought that people on this ng were illegally using prescription meds, confusing we chronic pain-ers with drug abusers who would do anything for a high. So, don’t eat your patch or sleep in a hot tub or waterbed with the patch between you and the heated mattress and you should be fine. In other words, read the directions. Summer (have used Duragesic for 3 1/2 years w/o incident) hi everybody, I subscribed for the first time yesterday and noticed that someone had written Durogesic does kill. unfortunately this had been deleted and I wonder if anyone has information on this as I have been on the patches for several weeks now and would be interested to know more. I have a fantastic pain consultant here in Pontefract, England. Hope to tell more if anyone is interested. kind regards john
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You’re right with this warning, Jack. I personally haven’t noticed an increased absorption at all, though. When I first started using the patches I was careful about the temp and watched for temp-related changes. But I seem to get a steady dose in winter and summer, while soaking in a hot bathtub or even a hot tub. I wanted to mention how Fentanyl can pose a real danger, but also show that these are easy to avoid. Summer – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Excellent advice Summer. One more caution. With the temps rising during the summer, be careful about spending long periods in the heat. Your pores open more and blood flow to the skin and subcutaneous tissues is dramatically increased as a cooling method for your body. This will also increase the rate of absorption of the fentanyl. — Jack Stem Hi John, I think I know the message you mean, it was sent by a woman whose son had been given Duragesic patches for post-op pain contrary to the manufacturer’s directions. The young man came home and went to sleep on his heated waterbed, causing the patch to release the med much more rapidly and he died. Also, she mentioned a death from someone tearing open the patch and ingesting the fentanyl gel inside–also deadly. Evidently the woman thought that people on this ng were illegally using prescription meds, confusing we chronic pain-ers with drug abusers who would do anything for a high. So, don’t eat your patch or sleep in a hot tub or waterbed with the patch between you and the heated mattress and you should be fine. In other words, read the directions. Summer (have used Duragesic for 3 1/2 years w/o incident)
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Summer and/or Jack, Don’t you spend time wondering whether or not the medicine is being absorbed, or are you losing it through sweat or that it’s not being applied properly? I went on it once , but spent so much time worrying , I’m positive I took any benefit away that I could have had . You two are much more in control than I was, that’s for sure. Love, Jackie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – You’re right with this warning, Jack. I personally haven’t noticed an increased absorption at all, though. When I first started using the patches I was careful about the temp and watched for temp-related changes. But I seem to get a steady dose in winter and summer, while soaking in a hot bathtub or even a hot tub. I wanted to mention how Fentanyl can pose a real danger, but also show that these are easy to avoid. Summer Excellent advice Summer. One more caution. With the temps rising during the summer, be careful about spending long periods in the heat. Your pores open more and blood flow to the skin and subcutaneous tissues is dramatically increased as a cooling method for your body. This will also increase the rate of absorption of the fentanyl. — Jack Stem Hi John, I think I know the message you mean, it was sent by a woman whose son had been given Duragesic patches for post-op pain contrary to the manufacturer’s directions. The young man came home and went to sleep on his heated waterbed, causing the patch to release the med much more rapidly and he died. Also, she mentioned a death from someone tearing open the patch and ingesting the fentanyl gel inside–also deadly. Evidently the woman thought that people on this ng were illegally using prescription meds, confusing we chronic pain-ers with drug abusers who would do anything for a high. So, don’t eat your patch or sleep in a hot tub or waterbed with the patch between you and the heated mattress and you should be fine. In other words, read the directions. Summer (have used Duragesic for 3 1/2 years w/o incident)
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Jackie, You ask some excellent questions, and I have to say upfront I’m not wild about patches for the delivery of medications simply because there are variables which definitely affect the uptake and distribution of the medication. If I have someone who is fairly active and spends a great deal of time outdoors, I recommend oral medications (or parenteral routes). But I have seen many folks who have had excellent success with the fentanyl patches and wouldn’t want anything else. As with any medication and any route of administration, the patient and the health care providers have to work as a team and keep track of the ups and downs during the trial of any medication. I strongly recommend the use of a daily "pain diary" for at tleast the first 2 weeks to one month on any new treatment regimen. This will show trends as to what causes the pain to get worse, the times of the day when pain is worst, how the medication helps, side effects experienced, etc. Anyone interested in a sample page for a daily pain diary feel free to contact me and I’ll send one along. — Jack Stem Midwest Anesthesia Consultants Conscious Sedation, Pain Management, PICC Lines, Chart Review http://www.bergsmyriad.com/macindex.htm "One person CAN make a difference. Be that person" – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Summer and/or Jack, Don’t you spend time wondering whether or not the medicine is being absorbed, or are you losing it through sweat or that it’s not being applied properly? I went on it once , but spent so much time worrying , I’m positive I took any benefit away that I could have had . You two are much more in control than I was, that’s for sure. Love, Jackie You’re right with this warning, Jack. I personally haven’t noticed an increased absorption at all, though. When I first started using the patches I was careful about the temp and watched for temp-related changes. But I seem to get a steady dose in winter and summer, while soaking in a hot bathtub or even a hot tub. I wanted to mention how Fentanyl can pose a real danger, but also show that these are easy to avoid. Summer Excellent advice Summer. One more caution. With the temps rising during the summer, be careful about spending long periods in the heat. Your pores open more and blood flow to the skin and subcutaneous tissues is dramatically increased as a cooling method for your body. This will also increase the rate of absorption of the fentanyl. — Jack Stem Hi John, I think I know the message you mean, it was sent by a woman whose son had been given Duragesic patches for post-op pain contrary to the manufacturer’s directions. The young man came home and went to sleep on his heated waterbed, causing the patch to release the med much more rapidly and he died. Also, she mentioned a death from someone tearing open the patch and ingesting the fentanyl gel inside–also deadly. Evidently the woman thought that people on this ng were illegally using prescription meds, confusing we chronic pain-ers with drug abusers who would do anything for a high. So, don’t eat your patch or sleep in a hot tub or waterbed with the patch between you and the heated mattress and you should be fine. In other words, read the directions. Summer (have used Duragesic for 3 1/2 years w/o incident)
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. Hi to all; Just found this group tonight and I can’t stop reading the messages posted here. I think its hard for anyone to understand what chronic pain is like unless you have it – and I do! I have Post-Polio Syndrome which causes a whole host of problems including muscle weakness, chronic fatigue, twitching, and a tremendous amount of pain. My condition has gradually progressed to the point where I can longer work. I am only 49 but I feel like 80+. PPS is progressive. To make matters even worse (as if that were possible), this summer I began a bout with Guillian-Barre Syndrome. This syndrome also causes a great deal of pain. Some pains are new, and some overlap the PPS. Most times GBS goes away in about one year. However, no one has been able to find another patient who has had PPS and GBS simultaneously. So I really do not know what to expect. I don’t like to whine but I feel like if I can do so anywhere its probably in this NG. So here goes – The only place that doesn’t hurt is the top of my head. Everything that I do hurts, everything! I take Tyl #4 and a bunch of other meds but they don’t seem to help much. Sometimes I find meditation alleviates some of my pain, but mostly I suffer constantly. My muscles and joints hurt terribly. And the neuropathy in my feet and hands is driving me crazy. Its hard to sleep and when I do I wake up in pain. I live with it all the time. I have actually gotten to the point of thinking what would happen if I took all my medications at once, at least I wouldn’t hurt. So now I’m on anti-depressants, and even so, I still have these thoughts (but less frequently and less compelling). Fortunately, I have a wife and two wonderful teenagers (is that oxymoronic?), which keeps me going. But no matter how hard I try to explain what I am going through, they can’t really understand. Sometimes they are sympathetic and at others it seems as if I am just a burden. It’s hard to live in chronic pain, especially when the prospects are rather bleak. Not being able to work makes me feel useless. It seems like almost every activity I enjoyed I can no longer do. I’m having a very hard time learning how to deal with family and friends. I imagine that they all think that things are not so bad. My wife tells me to ignore the pain and to work through it, but how can I ignore it? And even if the pain did not prevent me from working, the PPS muscle and nerve loss would anyway. It is late and I seem to be rambling on. It feels good to be able to vent but then I feel bad that it is even necessary to do so. Howard
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – . Hi to all; Just found this group tonight and I can’t stop reading the messages posted here. I think its hard for anyone to understand what chronic pain is like unless you have it – and I do! I have Post-Polio Syndrome which causes a whole host of problems including muscle weakness, chronic fatigue, twitching, and a tremendous amount of pain. My condition has gradually progressed to the point where I can longer work. I am only 49 but I feel like 80+. PPS is progressive. To make matters even worse (as if that were possible), this summer I began a bout with Guillian-Barre Syndrome. This syndrome also causes a great deal of pain. Some pains are new, and some overlap the PPS. Most times GBS goes away in about one year. However, no one has been able to find another patient who has had PPS and GBS simultaneously. So I really do not know what to expect. I don’t like to whine but I feel like if I can do so anywhere its probably in this NG. So here goes – The only place that doesn’t hurt is the top of my head. Everything that I do hurts, everything! I take Tyl #4 and a bunch of other meds but they don’t seem to help much. Sometimes I find meditation alleviates some of my pain, but mostly I suffer constantly. My muscles and joints hurt terribly. And the neuropathy in my feet and hands is driving me crazy. Its hard to sleep and when I do I wake up in pain. I live with it all the time. I have actually gotten to the point of thinking what would happen if I took all my medications at once, at least I wouldn’t hurt. So now I’m on anti-depressants, and even so, I still have these thoughts (but less frequently and less compelling). Fortunately, I have a wife and two wonderful teenagers (is that oxymoronic?), which keeps me going. But no matter how hard I try to explain what I am going through, they can’t really understand. Sometimes they are sympathetic and at others it seems as if I am just a burden. It’s hard to live in chronic pain, especially when the prospects are rather bleak. Not being able to work makes me feel useless. It seems like almost every activity I enjoyed I can no longer do. I’m having a very hard time learning how to deal with family and friends. I imagine that they all think that things are not so bad. My wife tells me to ignore the pain and to work through it, but how can I ignore it? And even if the pain did not prevent me from working, the PPS muscle and nerve loss would anyway. It is late and I seem to be rambling on. It feels good to be able to vent but then I feel bad that it is even necessary to do so. Howard Howard, I feel so bad for you and can really relate. Though my
conditions are different, I know what you mean about the constant pain, feelings of uselessness from not being able to work, and at times feeling like a burden. I owned my own small business and had to close it last March which broke my heart. Now instead of bringing money home to contribute, all I do is spend money at the endless round of doctor appointments. my husband tries to understand but I don’t think anyone who does not live with constant intense pain can ever understand. I know I didn’t until it happened to me. Hell, I don’t think the doctors even understand, atleast mine don’t. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but I don’t. I just try to get thru each day and find something I can do to bring meaning to my life. Somedays it is calling a friend who is having a rough time and focusing on them. Just hang in there and take it a day at time. Emma Before you buy.
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Howard, One thing that WILL help is to vent here, where others understand just where you are, and try to avoid venting at home- Too often even the most supportive family members simply don’t want to hear it-because they cannot do anything about it, and if they are mostly pain free, do not understand. Valuable lesson I have learned from this group. I am fortunate, and currently enjoy reasonable health. From my practice as a pharmacist, I see families torn apart from excessive venting. People in this group do understand, can give you advice you won’t find anywhere else, and can help you when you most need it. I have only been here two weeks, but the support I’ve seen given here is astounding. Welcome to this group, for you have found a new family. I am the sure others will agree. Dave/
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Howard&Emma, I have spent the last 18 months learning to adjust to what the world considers a former giver and taxpayer. The Lie that we must be aware of is that we can no longer contribute to God , family, and community as we once did. The truth is , that if we so choose, we can give in a way that has previously been unnattainable to us. Many of us have the one commodity in common that the rest of the country does not. We have more time on our hands, that we know what to do with. Whichever area we decide to focus in on, in spite of our pain, should stand out as any project would if the participants only had more time to give. We do have to adjust to the fact that we are probably going to be poorer than we would care to be. We are also going to be wracked with pain. But before we go crazy, maybe we should decide where and how we are going to spend our unending free time . There has got to be a way to put what still works well in us to good use. I am still in the thinking phase of this, but I know there is something I can do, that will bring a feeling of accomplishment. Peace, Richard
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Hi Howard, ‘Don’t know if you mentioned it but it sounds like you could use some help with depression, too. Chronic pain and depression go together quite commonly, and it might take only a simple script for prozac or paxil, etc., to help you a bit. As if you need another pill, right?
It seems that no matter what the affliction, those who don’t have it "don’t get it" much at all. For so long, my wife and son (17) were at a loss on what to do with my chronic pain and clinical depression. I just kept saying, "Just love me no matter what, try to be empathetic, and mostly, just be here." A few times my wife sat in a session with my psychiatrist and therapists, and that made a big difference for her understanding of depression. My son is a very good jock (athelete) and there have been times when he got an injury or simply pain from overdoing it. And he has on his own discovered that his pains can relate to mine. But most important, we try to talk about it. And I make an effort to talk about it and not whine about it if i possibly can. Again, talking about it can make a big difference. Also, in my situation, I had to spend six months here at home, giving myself IV therapy for a hospital staph infection, with one relapse. And they visited me when I was in a psych hospital and in an alcohol rehab too. They saw what former drunks and crack addicts really were like. So like most anything, the more they can know about something the more they can understand. oran – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – . Hi to all; Just found this group tonight and I can’t stop reading the messages posted here. I think its hard for anyone to understand what chronic pain is like unless you have it – and I do! I have Post-Polio Syndrome which causes a whole host of problems including muscle weakness, chronic fatigue, twitching, and a tremendous amount of pain. My condition has gradually progressed to the point where I can longer work. I am only 49 but I feel like 80+. PPS is progressive. To make matters even worse (as if that were possible), this summer I began a bout with Guillian-Barre Syndrome. This syndrome also causes a great deal of pain. Some pains are new, and some overlap the PPS. Most times GBS goes away in about one year. However, no one has been able to find another patient who has had PPS and GBS simultaneously. So I really do not know what to expect. I don’t like to whine but I feel like if I can do so anywhere its probably in this NG. So here goes – The only place that doesn’t hurt is the top of my head. Everything that I do hurts, everything! I take Tyl #4 and a bunch of other meds but they don’t seem to help much. Sometimes I find meditation alleviates some of my pain, but mostly I suffer constantly. My muscles and joints hurt terribly. And the neuropathy in my feet and hands is driving me crazy. Its hard to sleep and when I do I wake up in pain. I live with it all the time. I have actually gotten to the point of thinking what would happen if I took all my medications at once, at least I wouldn’t hurt. So now I’m on anti-depressants, and even so, I still have these thoughts (but less frequently and less compelling). Fortunately, I have a wife and two wonderful teenagers (is that oxymoronic?), which keeps me going. But no matter how hard I try to explain what I am going through, they can’t really understand. Sometimes they are sympathetic and at others it seems as if I am just a burden. It’s hard to live in chronic pain, especially when the prospects are rather bleak. Not being able to work makes me feel useless. It seems like almost every activity I enjoyed I can no longer do. I’m having a very hard time learning how to deal with family and friends. I imagine that they all think that things are not so bad. My wife tells me to ignore the pain and to work through it, but how can I ignore it? And even if the pain did not prevent me from working, the PPS muscle and nerve loss would anyway. It is late and I seem to be rambling on. It feels good to be able to vent but then I feel bad that it is even necessary to do so. Howard
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welcomeHoward,My pain started almost 40 years ago,and most days ,I have had to decide ,if it was worth living ?The answer is always yes,because of my family !If I had been alone with no one to care,I proberly would have ended it a long time ago.All I have to do is think of my children (3) and what it would do to them.Then,Thank the Lord,grandchildren (6) I could never hurt them.Sure,I would be pain free,but all those who love me would forever wonder, what they could have done different,to have saved me from myself.That would be a lifetime of guilt for them all.No matter how bad it gets,I could never hurt them. You have teenagers,and maybe not to far down the road,maybe grandchildren,you haven’t met yet !!!! If you haven’t tried it yet,give time release morphine a try.M.S. Contin or Oramorph sr are 2 names ,they don’t get rid of the pain completely,but they can cut off the sharp edge,so you cn tolarate it. Hug your family often,and be thankful you have them,They are your life line.If you can’t get your drs. to treat your pain aggressively,come bock on here and tell us what area you live in,maybe one of us can tell you of a better Dr.. Sometimes you have to wade through the B.S. around here,but when you need help,we all come together and try our best to help. Good Luck Lem
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Welcome Emma Happy to meet you although this is one group I wish I didn’t qualify for membership. The people here are kind hearted for the most part. John K
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – . Hi to all; Just found this group tonight and I can’t stop reading the messages posted here. I think its hard for anyone to understand what chronic pain is like unless you have it – and I do! I have Post-Polio Syndrome which causes a whole host of problems including muscle weakness, chronic fatigue, twitching, and a tremendous amount of pain. My condition has gradually progressed to the point where I can longer work. I am only 49 but I feel like 80+. PPS is progressive. To make matters even worse (as if that were possible), this summer I began a bout with Guillian-Barre Syndrome. This syndrome also causes a great deal of pain. Some pains are new, and some overlap the PPS. Most times GBS goes away in about one year. However, no one has been able to find another patient who has had PPS and GBS simultaneously. So I really do not know what to expect. I don’t like to whine but I feel like if I can do so anywhere its probably in this NG. So here goes – The only place that doesn’t hurt is the top of my head. Everything that I do hurts, everything! I take Tyl #4 and a bunch of other meds but they don’t seem to help much. Sometimes I find meditation alleviates some of my pain, but mostly I suffer constantly. My muscles and joints hurt terribly. And the neuropathy in my feet and hands is driving me crazy. Its hard to sleep and when I do I wake up in pain. I live with it all the time. I have actually gotten to the point of thinking what would happen if I took all my medications at once, at least I wouldn’t hurt. So now I’m on anti-depressants, and even so, I still have these thoughts (but less frequently and less compelling). Fortunately, I have a wife and two wonderful teenagers (is that oxymoronic?), which keeps me going. But no matter how hard I try to explain what I am going through, they can’t really understand. Sometimes they are sympathetic and at others it seems as if I am just a burden. It’s hard to live in chronic pain, especially when the prospects are rather bleak. Not being able to work makes me feel useless. It seems like almost every activity I enjoyed I can no longer do. I’m having a very hard time learning how to deal with family and friends. I imagine that they all think that things are not so bad. My wife tells me to ignore the pain and to work through it, but how can I ignore it? And even if the pain did not prevent me from working, the PPS muscle and nerve loss would anyway. It is late and I seem to be rambling on. It feels good to be able to vent but then I feel bad that it is even necessary to do so. Howard
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Hi Howard: WELCOME we all started out as a newbie. Glad you found our group, it is the greatest. Feel free to vent, ask for advice or help someone who may need your knowledge. Good to have you aboard. Pain free folks find it so hard to understand, try as they might. Give them some time. Just bite the bullet for awhile. Vent here all you want and give them some time. I’ve found that too much apologizing puts the non-pain family members off. So I just live my life as best as I can and this seems to finally get through to them that I am doing all that I can do. Watch out for the kids though, they are really tough. If you do someting with or for one, the other expects equal treatment. Really a pain trying to keep score. No more of that nonsense for me. They take it or leave it. On a good day I do what I want with who I want. They just have to deal with it. That is their problem. We may be disabled – we’re not stupid. Some folks seem to think the two go hand in hand. NOT! Welcome aboard. Bonnie
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Richard,, i have decided to start hopekeepers in my church,,its a support group that is religious based. You can check it out at www.restmin.com it seems like i could do this , since i’ve been there done that..Also welcome Howard, i pray things will get better for you, .. Bless you and the group…SHiney
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Howard&Emma, I have spent the last 18 months learning to adjust to what the world considers a former giver and taxpayer. The Lie that we must be aware of is that we can no longer contribute to God , family, and community as we once did. The truth is , that if we so choose, we can give in a way that has previously been unnattainable to us. Many of us have the one commodity in common that the rest of the country does not. We have more time on our hands, that we know what to do with. Whichever area we decide to focus in on, in spite of our pain, should stand out as any project would if the participants only had more time to give. We do have to adjust to the fact that we are probably going to be poorer than we would care to be. We are also going to be wracked with pain. But before we go crazy, maybe we should decide where and how we are going to spend our unending free time . There has got to be a way to put what still works well in us to good use. I am still in the thinking phase of this, but I know there is something I can do, that will bring a feeling of accomplishment. Peace, Richard
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Welcome to this place. We can see that you’re intelligent and thoughtful. I’m almost an intruder here….I have sevre back pain, and am on hydocodone and Medrol…I need to learn more about the Medrol.. Anyhow, though my problems are slight compared to most here, I enjoy learning from them and am always deeply touched….. I would never do anything drastic…..if I was alone in life….maybe…but when we have even one person…especially children… I have a four year old daughter……she is the light of my life, and I would never hurt her… Dave is right…come here and talk to us…these are the best people!! Sorry for being flaky here…..:) jp
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Just want to thank everyone for their kind thoughts and advice, I appreciate finding folks who can be understanding. A few of the things that you said really hit home; It is true, we do have more time on our hands. This could be considered a good opportunity to take advantage of by doing some of the things I’ve always wanted to. I have started to do this by advocating (?) for several human rights and environmental orgs. Also I plan to get back into art. I used to draw but I stopped due to lack of time. Just resupplied myself with sketch books and pastels. I learned from your responses that it is NOT a good idea to apologize for our actions, or lack thereof. I know that I should do what I can when I can, and not feel I need to justify to others when I can’t. I will try. Thanks…Howard – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –
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Hi, everyone … A quick few lines to introduce myself. Female, forty, disability retired from the Army in 1984 with cadaver bone implant in a foot (osteosarcoma, three surgeries). Various arthritis problems over the years … osteoarthritis and myelitis in my bad foot, bursitis in both knees, and degenerative disk disease lumbar and thoracic spine. Disability upgrade after a 1997 workers comp case to cover both knees and back. Dx’d early this year with stage two RSD and am trapped within the VA medical system. <lol Currently looking into diet ("Foods That Fight Pain" by Neal Barnard) for pain relief since VA doctors don’t seem to be of any help. Greetings to all! Lynne "What if the Hokey Pokey is really what it’s all about?"
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Welcome Lynne, Here are your Oreos *O*O*O* and a great big "OUCH" to make your arrival official. We are sorry you had to be here but glad you found us. Jim Mas rapido! http://members.aol.com/Motomij/yourhere.html
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Welcome to ASCP! I hope that you find a good pain management clinic, perhaps, even if it means going out of your VA systems. There are some doctors that have reasonable fees for the first visit. Like yourself, I also hurt bad from degenerative disk disease. It is no fun! Mary
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Thanks Mary! Wish I *could* go outside the VA system but can’t. Rated presently at 50% and barely able to make it right now. Thank goodness for the support of my family — they’ve been helping with food and have been doing all the driving to my scheduled appointments since I haven’t been able to drive since early April (My RSD is in both feet, ankles, and halfway up both lower legs). The VA system is very slow ….. I’m getting pretty good at waiting!
Lynne Welcome to ASCP! I hope that you find a good pain management clinic, perhaps, even if it means going out of your VA systems. There are some doctors that have reasonable fees for the first visit. Like yourself, I also hurt bad from degenerative disk disease. It is no fun! Mary
"What if the Hokey Pokey is really what it’s all about?"
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Lynne, I wrote the book. There is a new diet for the problems you mentioned. . It involves sugar, chocolate, and any kind of fresh breaks, cakes and cookies. For more detail, feel free to write. I